{"id":7578,"date":"2023-04-10T17:17:39","date_gmt":"2023-04-10T22:17:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hub.you.earth\/chronicles\/?p=7578"},"modified":"2023-04-10T17:51:28","modified_gmt":"2023-04-10T22:51:28","slug":"dealing-with-people-be-a-listener-not-an-arguer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hub.you.earth\/chronicles\/2023\/04\/10\/dealing-with-people-be-a-listener-not-an-arguer\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with People – Be a Listener, Not an Arguer"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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When we are caught in an argument, it is easy to act defensively, and if both parties are acting in the heat of the moment, a resolution may be almost impossible. Why? Because both parties refuse to listen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hearing is a passive skill that does not require much thought, however, actively listening is an indispensable tool when it comes to handling conflicts. In a conflict situation, both parties want to feel that they are heard, and ideally understood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feeling that their thoughts and feelings are not perceived as valid by the other party will make the situation worse. By listening to the other person, you can de-escalate the tension, calm emotions, and hopefully, lead to a peaceful resolution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just like any other skill, we can develop our listening skills to help us become better listeners. There are different techniques that coaches and counselors make use of with their clients, and you don\u2019t need to be an expert to apply these same techniques. You just need to practice doing these techniques so you can become a good listener and a better communicator. Here\u2019s what you can do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practice Active Listening<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

To be a good listener requires effort. This is especially true when in a heated discussion with another person. The last thing you feel like doing is to stop talking and give them total control, by showing that you are listening intently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, to avoid debates becoming full-blown arguments, active listening is the key to dealing with any conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Active listening is not as simple as listening. Active listening is where the listener uses different communication techniques to make the other person feel that they are truly being listened to and understood. These techniques include paraphrasing, summarizing, and reframing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n